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If anyone is ever worried about scamming behaviour there is a good ten question test that would give you a good idea if the relationship is a good one or a bad one. And it could apply to anyone anywhere.
Are You Hosting a Person on The Take?
Directions for Person on The Take Test:
Circle one of the choices about the person in question. After completing all ten questions, give yourself 1 point for "Rarely" answers; 2 points for "Sometimes" answers, 3 points for "Often" answers and 4 points for "Frequently" answers. Add up all your points; then compare your score to the Test Results to see if you are or have been a Host for a Person on The Take.
1. Do you find yourself uneasy about trusting in this person?
(1) Rarely (2) Sometimes (3) Often (4) Frequently
2. Do you feel you are giving more in the relationship than you are
receiving?
(1) Rarely (2) Sometimes (3) Often (4) Frequently
3. Do you feel your communications in your relationship are
unsatisfactory?
(1) Rarely (2) Sometimes (3) Often (4) Frequently
4. Are you spending more money in the relationship than the other
person?
(1) Rarely (2) Sometimes (3) Often (4) Frequently
5. Are you investing more time in the relationship than the other person is?
(1) Rarely (2) Sometimes (3) Often (4) Frequently
6. Do you feel this person is too demanding of your time, attention and
love?
(1) Rarely (2) Sometimes (3) Often (4) Frequently
7. Does this person blame you for things that are “not right” in the
relationship?
(1) Rarely (2) Sometimes (3) Often (4) Frequently
8. Do you feel that asking questions and trying to get basic information
and understanding is met with negativity from this person?
(1) Rarely (2) Sometimes (3) Often (4) Frequently
9. Do you feel like you give this person an inch and they take a mile?
(1) Rarely (2) Sometimes (3) Often (4) Frequently
10. Does this person accuse you of having negative traits—the same
negative traits they display?
(1) Rarely (2) Sometimes (3) Often (4) Frequently
TEST RESULTS
0-10 points - The person you are in a relationship with is definitely not a Person on The Take
11-19 points - The person you are in a relationship with is most likely not a Person on The Take.
20-29 points - Warning! The person you are in a relationship with is displaying symptoms of a Person on The Take. This person is either extremely selfish in this relationship or is a Person on the Take. Listen to their actions; watch what they say! Think twice about sharing your resources with this person or making any financial commitments or loans with the person until you have done a complete background check. Background checks are not foolproof, but may be helpful in verifying some things- in stimulating the truth to come to light.
30-40 points - Extreme Danger: The person you are in a relationship with is very likely a bona fide Person on The Take. Stop, look and listen. Take precautions. Do not share resources with the person, as you risk losing the resources forever. If you don't want to be taken for everything you have, consider doing some snooping, get some proof of fraud. If you are married, you may be able to get an annulment, therefore saving some or all of your property that could be lost in a divorce to this Person on the Take.
That quiz helps somewhat, but the problem lies when you fully trust the person and don't see any negative signs when they are really there. Some of these cons are really deceptive, so it's best to stay on your toes but at the same time don't let it go to your head either as you might be misjudging the woman of your dreams.
This happens in all different parts of the world. No matter where you are from or where you live, this can happen to anyone at any point in time. So I don't think this is something to focus on while you are planning to visit Panama or if you are living there.
I think, I made it clear in my previous posts. Women need love and attention (at least have the courtesy to ask her, do you have enough money for this week?, and also providing her with the basic stuff a woman needs, you know women love stores right?,I think the way you act as a bf, reflects the future husband you will be and that is why women seek the opportunity of scamming even at the very end of a relationship. I have friends who have dumped guys not for scamming, but for being completely cheap and miserable &%%$· Not caring about a woman's need is scamming a woman's time and effort to be with you.
Believe me I have experience and that is what has given a beautiful and stable relationship. Do not be afraid of Panamanians, just give them a better life emotionally and economically, love is not just holding hands.
I've heard that same B.S. in every country I've ever lived in or visited.
Does it happen? Absolutely. Does it happen in Panama? Absolutely.
The more correct way to say that is that people occasionally use sex and intimacy as a lure to scam other people out of money, favors and other useful, tangible goods and services.
Limiting that to Panama is the equivalent of saying that only Panamanian or Colombian women lie or steal. It's ridiculous, small minded and unfortunately, typical.
AmoPanama (02-28-2009)
Excellent point Mackenze.
I agree that it's rather stupid to narrow down such a general situation to simply just Panama, this occurs everywhere in the world.
It's like saying are there bad people in Panama? Of course there are, there's probably a lot of people like that already in whatever region the person asking the question lives in. Although I think in certain locations you may find more of these unfaithful girls, such as bars..
The problem is that the foriegners dress like slobs. Look at the way latin men dress. Ironed shirts and nice pants. Gringos go to dates with flipflops and shorts.
All girls like money. What gringa is going to marry a poor slob from the states. That is why in the times of this economic crisis there are more divorces.
Nowadays.. anything can happen.. same like this case.
I think it happens anywhere, really not only Panama, my hubby lived in Germany for several years, and how the girls were crazy for american man, that does not mean that all German girls are the same, it happens in other countries not only in Panama, Colombia, Germany, Asiasome of them looking for a better life the "Greencard" lol, I do feel bad for them because that, they get involve in some crazy situations
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I think many Panamanians do not actually like us Americans but they are great 'pretenders' and as my psychologist friend tells me they are passive aggressive. Smile to your face, laugh and try to 'rip you off' behind your back. Of course looking at the past we created Noreiga, then took him out.. as we always do when a US puppet rebels against its master (USA).. so who could blame them?
I have had real estate agents renting my properties in Panama who have destroyed my properties, taken everything but the kichen sink, which they ruined with some cleaning fluid... yet, I love Panama and its people.. there are always some who will take advantage everywhere..Majority of Panamanians are great people and kind.
Hi,
I am new to this forum.
Trying to meet a girl in Panama to help me out in learning Spanish in order to relocate from Canada to a warmer country. I am a kind person and will appreciate help.
What would you advise?
Thanks
My advice is to try to find a spanish meet up group on your own townhttp://www.meetup.com/ and practice spanish, don't have to be a panamanian girl, I will go to Panama but to visit first just see how it is but be very careful Panama have many dangerous place like any other countries and never go alone, again be careful![]()
Very funny... I have never been approached by any girls when I am here in Panama... May be due to my poor Spanish... Or may be due to the fact that I don't visit the "regular meetup areas" that frequently....
Queensland Bulls
May I add my two cents to this ? I hope it don't brake me lol. From some of the posts I've have seen, it reminds me of settlers bartering beads, and blankets from the Indians for goods lol. I speak no Spanish, and I know it is a must to meet, and carry a conversation with women or men for what ever the reasons may be. I do intend to learn too.
But getting back to the point at hand. I have never ran accros a woman who dosen't appreciate a little romance, kindness, an open ear, and feeling of security of whom she is with. Unless the woman was selling her goods, and looking for a fast turn over.
With all these men hunting for the same thing, and as fast as gossip travels among women, they are on the defense any way.
She wants to be treated like a lady for all to see, and should be. I don't beleive she is after your wallet, as much as she is watching her reputation out in public.
If she does decide to give you that special gift, it should be appreciated with kindness, and lots of little acts of affection.
Need a quick score? Need to check out out the women of the night.
Hookers don't care when they come, or when they go lol.
The local women have to get up the next day, go to work most likely, and face their peers.
There are good and bad girls everywhere. I've met some Panamanian girls that will literally do anything for me. I've also met the type that think you are a walking wallet. Tip: the one's that can wrap their ankle behind their neck on a bet usually have other talents. There are plenty of good P'manian girls out there if you know where to look.
Happy Hunting
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