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If anyone is ever worried about scamming behaviour there is a good ten question test that would give you a good idea if the relationship is a good one or a bad one. And it could apply to anyone anywhere.
Are You Hosting a Person on The Take?
Directions for Person on The Take Test:
Circle one of the choices about the person in question. After completing all ten questions, give yourself 1 point for "Rarely" answers; 2 points for "Sometimes" answers, 3 points for "Often" answers and 4 points for "Frequently" answers. Add up all your points; then compare your score to the Test Results to see if you are or have been a Host for a Person on The Take.
1. Do you find yourself uneasy about trusting in this person?
(1) Rarely (2) Sometimes (3) Often (4) Frequently
2. Do you feel you are giving more in the relationship than you are
receiving?
(1) Rarely (2) Sometimes (3) Often (4) Frequently
3. Do you feel your communications in your relationship are
unsatisfactory?
(1) Rarely (2) Sometimes (3) Often (4) Frequently
4. Are you spending more money in the relationship than the other
person?
(1) Rarely (2) Sometimes (3) Often (4) Frequently
5. Are you investing more time in the relationship than the other person is?
(1) Rarely (2) Sometimes (3) Often (4) Frequently
6. Do you feel this person is too demanding of your time, attention and
love?
(1) Rarely (2) Sometimes (3) Often (4) Frequently
7. Does this person blame you for things that are “not right” in the
relationship?
(1) Rarely (2) Sometimes (3) Often (4) Frequently
8. Do you feel that asking questions and trying to get basic information
and understanding is met with negativity from this person?
(1) Rarely (2) Sometimes (3) Often (4) Frequently
9. Do you feel like you give this person an inch and they take a mile?
(1) Rarely (2) Sometimes (3) Often (4) Frequently
10. Does this person accuse you of having negative traits—the same
negative traits they display?
(1) Rarely (2) Sometimes (3) Often (4) Frequently
TEST RESULTS
0-10 points - The person you are in a relationship with is definitely not a Person on The Take
11-19 points - The person you are in a relationship with is most likely not a Person on The Take.
20-29 points - Warning! The person you are in a relationship with is displaying symptoms of a Person on The Take. This person is either extremely selfish in this relationship or is a Person on the Take. Listen to their actions; watch what they say! Think twice about sharing your resources with this person or making any financial commitments or loans with the person until you have done a complete background check. Background checks are not foolproof, but may be helpful in verifying some things- in stimulating the truth to come to light.
30-40 points - Extreme Danger: The person you are in a relationship with is very likely a bona fide Person on The Take. Stop, look and listen. Take precautions. Do not share resources with the person, as you risk losing the resources forever. If you don't want to be taken for everything you have, consider doing some snooping, get some proof of fraud. If you are married, you may be able to get an annulment, therefore saving some or all of your property that could be lost in a divorce to this Person on the Take.
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